All too often we use the conditions of our external world to determine how we feel on the inside. But instead of allowing conditions of the outside (gaining the job, or losing it; watching the value of your house fall, or rise; “he likes me,” or he doesn’t) determine our mood and feelings of worth, we need to empower ourselves from the inside out. If we are empowered, fluctuations in our outside world are things we can respond to, instead of things that send us into fits of highs and lows.
For the spiritual take on this:
Thus when Jesus said, “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgement,” he was saying that if we live in the belief that our experience is totally dependent on what happens to us, we become tentative, cautious, even a little paranoid, and every changing condition has the power to “pull our strings,” to determine how we are going to think or feel or act. For instance, if our basic concerns are financial, then the daily Dow Jones report may well become our personal mood-meter, giving us faith or fear, joy or depression. It is a terrible way to live, yet it is probably true that it is the way most people do live.
However, if you really believe that life is lived from within-out, and if you persistently establish yourself in the consciousness of oneness with divine substance, then your perception of things will reflect an attitude that is “bullish” (optimistic). And, having seen and felt the end, you have willed the means to the realization of the end… for you. And it will work for you, no matter what happens in the world “out there.”
Erik Butterworth, Spiritual Economics
Let your inside world rule the outside, not the other way around.
Takeaway: Determine your mood and feelings of worth from within out, don’t let them fluctuate with the highs and lows of external factors.