Putting aside the whole concept that you are a co-creator in your life and that if something is in your life, YOU helped create it. (If you are a Laws of Attraction person, you know this; therefore you can never be a victim.)
If you take responsibility for everything in your life, instead of viewing yourself as merely reacting to everything around you, you will be able to create the life you desire.
Let’s look at the idea of responsibility, and why it is so important for you to take responsibility:
“…without accepting responsibility for absolutely everything in your life, you will not have absolute power to change what displeases you. If you give away even one percent of your power, whether to a god you don’t understand; to karma; to your spouse, parents, or kids; or even to the so-called ‘mysteries of life;’ that one percent could threaten to undermine all of your hopes and dreams, effectively stealing 100 percent of your power. Get rid of this illusion by accepting full responsibility.”
“Manifesting Change” By Mike Dooley
“What does responsibility mean? Responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself. Having accepted this circumstance, this event, this problem, responsibility then means the ability to have a creative response to the situation as it is now. All problems contain the seeds of opportunity, and this awareness allows you to take the moment and transform it to a better situation or thing.”
In “The Awakening Course,” Joe Vitale talks about the “Seven Keys to Breaking out of the Victim Pattern.” I recommend picking up this book and reading his insightful ideas. I would like to share one key here:
“Take 100 Percent Responsibility
You are totally responsible for your experiences in your life. You were not to blame for them; it’s not your fault; but it is your responsibility.”
Later in the book, he says:
“When you take responsibility, you’re not a victim anymore. Now you are empowered. Now you are taking control. Now you are moving forward.”
When you take responsibility, you are able to move forward empowered, and you will be a victim no more.
Takeaway: Take responsibility for your life and situation, and empower yourself to create the life you desire.
P.S. If you really want a good kick in the pants on this topic, listen to some of Matthew Ferry’s work. He has some great thoughts about how it is “always your fault.” Whoa, baby, that will get you to take some ownership of your situation. When you are not just “responsible” but it is absolutely your “fault,” you also have the power to fix it!