Frustrations and struggles just help you to identify what you do not want. Once you start feeling frustrations, it is your opportunity to look at the opposite (what you do desire) and focus on that.
Here are some points to consider when thinking about frustrations:
1. Your frustrations are only obstacles in YOUR mind. You can move past them.
“Basic Principles of the Science of Mind” By Dr. Fredrick Bailes –
“This oneness of God and man is not hypothetical; it is actual. Man derives strength from his unified consciousness, unified with Infinite Right Action. When the personality becomes disintegrated, it is because that person see two things: that which he desires, which the Infinite also sees; and an obstructing power that can block him from the attainment of his desire, which the Infinite does not recognize. The psychologist uses the term “frustration” for this double vision, and it is well know that frustrated persons are always unhappy persons who may become neurotic or worse…
“In facing a weakness or any other problem, we have three possible courses to pursue. They are fight, flight, and Transcendence.”
The Infinite does not recognize the obstruction! The Universe knows that you can get past whatever perceived obstacle you are coming up with.
2. You are being given a gift in disguise.
“Illusions:The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah” by Richard Bach
“There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.”
Have you ever had something that you perceived as “bad” happen to you, only in hind-sight see how it was a blessing? Cancer survivors often say it was the best thing that ever happened to them. Perhaps you didn’t get that promotion, because there was a better job waiting for you.
You want. You want. You want. But your want is an attachment to a result. Stay open to new possibilities and learning experiences and you will find the gift in the frustration or struggle.
3. Frustrations and struggles are part of life. Get over it! Use them to help you, not hurt you.
Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D. in Personhood
“Fully functioning persons accept emotional pain as an inevitable reality of life. In fact they take it as an indispensable stimulus for change. This does not mean that they ask for pain or stand passively by waiting to be hurt. Rather, they understand that pain need not only mean discomfort but can also be utilized as a positive force for growth in humanness. A life without pain, if such a life were possible, would be but part of a life; for pain and joy are interrelated, at times dependent one upon the other, in certain circumstances growing from the other.
“The fully functioning person is aware that emotional pain is largely self-made. It does not arise, as we so often presume, from the actions of others, a negative situation or an unhappy occurrence. It is our personal reaction to these things. It is not others and other things which cause our unhappiness. It is ourselves. In a very real sense, we are directly responsible for our pain. We may either agonize over our human condition and curse our friends, family, society and God, whom we feel are responsible for it, or we may choose to accept it and do something constructive and personal to ameliorate it. One decision will continue to create useless pain, the other will bring solutions to it….
“Such is the case with mental pain. If each time we experienced it we would welcome it with interest and give it our immediate attention by asking ourselves, ‘What is this hurt about?’ ‘What is there for me to learn from it?’ ” What are my alternative responses besides suffering?’, we would perhaps discover the true reason for the pain and be able to arrive at some creative behavioral alternatives to aid ourselves in overcoming it.”
If you feel pain, it is just telling you to get back in alignment with your desires or showing you a new way to look at the world.
Use any signs of frustration and struggle are just emotional clues. Use them. Make adjustments and move forward without the frustrated feeling.
You often hear spiritual people saying that, “everything is perfect just as it is.” I don’t take this to mean that you should not work to make changes in your life, rather that the frustration you are feeling is perfect as it will give you a push in a new direction or to a new way of seeing the world. How brilliant is that? Everything is perfect, just as it is. In this moment you are receiving the experience you need to propel your life in a new direction. The direction from here is up to you.
Takeaway: Your frustrations are a part of life to be used as a tool.
Frustrations are only in your mind, as your interpretation of the situation. With the Universe’s capabilities there is always a way to fulfill your desires. Know that you can move past any frustration.
There is a gift of clarification or a new direction hidden in your frustration.