Maybe you’re the supporting character in a struggle, not the protagonist? (SSN)

Did you ever feel like the story wasn’t about you? That perhaps you were dealing with a struggle that didn’t really feel like it “belonged” to you?

Now, I still agree with Mike Dooley’s thought in “Manifesting Change” that:

“Nothing is by chance, nothing is random; there is always meaning, purpose, healing, and love.”

We can always learn and grow. But perhaps sometimes (maybe all the time) we need to remember that we are part of an interdependent species.

Sometimes we are here to be an antagonist, instead of a protagonist.

“The antagonist never sees himself as the opposing force, but as the protagonist in his own story. The same is true for the protagonist. One takes into consideration one’s own interest and not necessarily the other’s interest, whereas God sees the highest and best for all concerned… God expresses as interacting, interdependent entities. God is a system of wholeness. The integrated whole is producing, exchanging, and distributing all the time. Everything about God is inclusive and has good for us all.”
Science of Mind Magazine, June 2010, by Celestine Frazier

Or sometimes we might choose to deal with a struggle to help the greater good.

“Sometimes a soul will choose a particularly challenging lifetime in order to accelerate its spiritual progress, or as an act of love to help, guide and nourish others who are going through a similarly difficult lifetime. A hard life is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity.”
“Messages for the Masters,” Brian Weiss, M.D.

Or perhaps we have volunteered for a struggle to help another.

“Why might a life be chosen that could end abruptly in violence? Well, with nothing to lose, since we’re eternal beings, the answer must lie in either the adventure that life would give us or the adventure it would make possible for others. Perhaps we allow ourselves to live on a stage where we MIGHT be violated if it creates circumstances in which the perpetrator finally understands the grotesque folly of their ways, and at last begins healing. Or perhaps we allow ourselves to stray into harm’s way so that other’s might not ‘have to.’ Maybe we choose it to help others and ourselves to understand the mental anguish that often leads to, and comes from, violence. Or perhaps it would be for the shocking ‘wake-up call’ it would provide to witnesses and to those distantly aware of what happened, so that they might pay closer attention to their own thoughts, words, actions, and resulting consequences. The reasons, including for the love of all involved, are endless.”
“Manifesting Change” By Mike Dooley

Sometimes you just need to take a step back and contemplate that it might not be all about you. But since we are interdependent and part of all, everything ultimately is.

No matter what the struggle and why you are facing it though, you need to remember that you always have a choice. You can choose your actions to be actions in love and inclusion or you can choose your actions for ego.

This does not mean that you should allow yourself to become a victim!

When you are facing a struggle, you still need to take responsibility for it. You still need to Unscribble it to create the life you want. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of. Use your integrity, communication skills, and problem solving abilities to work through any struggles you are facing. No matter who the protagonist in the story is, assume it is you (even if it might not be) and that you are in the struggle to learn and choose your conduct wisely. Choosing to be the protagonist allows you to take back control of your own destiny. Remember, we are interconnected, so the wiser you act, the better for the whole and the better for the true protagonist.

Also, finally, just because someone needs to learn a lesson (or you think they do, or think you might be playing a part in someone else’s big lesson), it does not mean that YOU are the one who has to teach it to them.

Do what you need to do to resolve the situation to your satisfaction, but don’t be the one who tries to teach someone. Lessons come, but learning is optional. If they want to learn, they will. If not, they won’t. YOU learn. YOU clarify how you want your life to be and how you are going to go about getting your dream life. Let others deal with their own lives.

We may not be on this earth to learn lessons. Or maybe we are. Who knows? But we are here. We might as well take the opportunity to experience and to grow. Growth often comes from struggles, so welcome the struggles. They are making you into something that is better than you were before, IF you allow them to. Learn from the frustration by finding solutions and exploring paths to get to them. Focus on the solution and the path instead of the problem. The other party will learn if they want to.

Takeaway: Sometimes you are playing a role in someone else’s drama. Even so, you still need to act like you are the main character and Unscribble yourself to the life you desire.


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Yes, you need to take action! (SSN)

Yes, you can sit by the phone and wait for a call that will solve all your problems, BUT more often than not, the answer to your desires and prayers will come only when you start to take action!

I know some of you Laws of Attraction fans out there are going to blast me for this. And yes, sometimes the solutions just call you up after you have been thinking about them. But think of it this way; each step you take toward your desire is you affirming with the Universe that yes, you do intend to manifest your intention in your life.

So let me blast you with some some of my favorite quotes on this matter.

“God can do no more FOR you then God can do THROUGH you.”
Eric Butterworth, Spiritual Economics

THROUGH YOU! Did you hear that? Things don’t just happen TO you and FOR you, they happen THROUGH you and through your actions, as well as your thoughts.

“That which you are seeking is seeking you.”

Won’t it happen faster if you meet it half way?

“I pray like everything depends on God; then I work as if everything depends on me.”
-George Washington Carver

If you want to write that best seller, build that home, get that degree, etc. you can pray all you want, but you are going to have to work too!

“But more often than not, you have to do something. You actually have to take action. You have to participate in the manifestation process, because it’s a co-creation process. You do something, and the universe… also kicks in and does its part. It’s a joint effort here.”
Joe Vitale, “The Awakening Course”

CO-CREATION!!! Meaning both are making efforts.

“It’s incumbent upon us to physically move in the general direction of our dreams…There cannot be happy accidents, lovely serendipities, or so-called coincidences if we’re just sitting on our couches with a vision board, waiting for Oprah to call!”
Mike Dooley, “Manifesting Change”

This is why we always stay open to other possibilities. Because while you are moving toward your intention, the Universe just might send you a faster route to get there. Pay attention!

“Actions make beautiful prayers.”

This was a post by my friend Raina on her Facebook page. So I am not sure where it came from, but I love it! And what a great way for the spiritual among us to think about it – actions make beautiful prayers, so when you pray, move your ass!

Takeaway: Take action toward achieving your desires.


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Picking a Direction (SSN)

So now you have done all this brainstorming. And you are trying to decide which solution you should start to explore. Oh, the anguish and confusion! Perhaps you should wait for a clear sign from God… oh, what to do? Blah blah blah!

Just start moving and let the rest sort itself out. Do not let this time of decision stop you!

We have already discussed (in the book) possible ways to help you decide which way to go. Including:

1. Realizing that you are just exploring and can change your direction at any time.
2. Trusting your gut and feelings.
3. Engaging in no transaction that does not benefit all involved.
(And using your imagined future and even muscle testing.)

But for those of you who are still stuck and waiting for the Universe to send you a clear sign, let me just say again – stop waiting!

And let me excitedly present this thought to kick you in the butt…

“You don’t even have to move in the correct direction as long as you’re doing your best to move in the direction that seems correct (or as close to correct as you can, however uncertain you may feel). Even moving in the “wrong” direction at least puts you within reach of guidance; and then through serendipities, new friends, and observations, you’ll be gently coaxed into making a legal U-turn.

As long as you want to change, keep busy. Stay active. The more you do, the more opportunities life’s magic will have to reach you.”

“Manifesting Change” By Mike Dooley

Stop waiting for signs! Think about it this way, if you are waiting for a divine sign:

1. Where did the desire come from?
2. Where did the inspiration for the solution come from?
3. Where did the path leading to your solution come from?

You were, and are, being divinely led! Now start to explore, but stay open to other better possible solutions that might crop up along the way, because where are they coming from? Wahooo! Don’t you just love how that works?

Takeaway: Just pick the solution that feels best for now and start exploring it. You can always change direction if and when you need to. But start moving!